Last week I had a private movement/dance lesson with the lovely and talented Jasmine Rafael at Millenium Dance Complex in North Hollywood. The goal was to become more in tune with my body movement, but what I gained was so much more! I saw everything I was going through spiritually, emotionally, and relationally manifest through my body. I could see it in my movement, posture, and even in the strain of my muscles. Most of the things I heard from her were "relax", "let go", and "you're overthinking things." Towards the end she simply said, "Don't be afraid to make mistakes!"
That is HUGE for me. I have been seeing so many things in my life recently that I want to tackle and fix, but I want to do it perfectly the first time. I don't allow myself to take those baby steps that are absolutely essential in the learning process. I see the end goal and I want to be there now. I hold myself to impossible standards and am disappointed when I "mess up." I tend to fixate on the problem instead of learning from it. But I have begun to realize just how much I can learn from my mistakes.
Oftentimes we value perfection, but when we make a mistake it can be an opportunity to grow. If we are terrified of messing up, we will be paralyzed into inaction. But the more we let go and allow ourselves to make mistakes, the faster we will learn, and the easier it will be!
Watching Jasmine dance is riveting, beautiful and inspiring. She is fierce, fearless, and dances with abandon. I aspire to throw off the chains of perfectionism and learn to let go, have a little grace for myself, and even go beyond that to be excited about my failures, because they are an amazing learning opportunity!!